Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and have a little chat with my 16-year-old self. I love that girl. She was smart and talented and creative. But bless her heart, her confidence was at rock-bottom.
She was so desperate to be liked, to be cool, to belong.
And if I could talk to her, here’s what I’d say:
You are going to have a fun life. You’re going to go on some incredible adventures. A lot of things you’re afraid of (like getting your heart broken) will happen. And a lot of things you dream of (like falling in love with a handsome Englishman and having a beautiful family) will happen, too.
And here’s what else I’d tell her: You are enough. The truth is, not everyone is going to like you, but that is no reason at all to not be who you really are. Because the ones who do like you? They are going to love you.
I have this little mantra I repeat to myself sometimes when I’m afraid of putting myself out there. When I’m about to post something vulnerable on the internet, or when I picture imaginary mean people saying I’m dumb and deluded for thinking I’m capable of anything significant or good.
It goes like this:
Faith Dwight is not for everyone, and that’s okay.
It’s a piece of knowledge that’s not only vital in my personal life, but in my business life as well. Some people do not like me. (I don’t know why, because I’m awesome, but whatever.) Not everyone is going to love my work, or connect to the way I run my business.
But the people who do – those are the guys I really want to work with.Because when a client sees who you are, and chooses you because of it…gosh, that is something special right there. Those are the people who are going to value what you do and respect you and trust you.
I wish I could tell 16-year-old Faith the same thing, so she wouldn’t waste the next 10 years of her life trying to please everyone out of fear of offending anyone, or being misunderstood, or whatever.
But you know who I CAN tell?
Listen to me, okay?
Here’s the bad news: Not everyone is going to like you.
But some people – they are really going to love you. Everything about you that you’ve ever worried was weird or odd or out-of-place…to those people, those are going to be the things that make them fall in love with you.
So stop hiding yourself away. Do those things that make you happy, that make you YOU.
And repeat after me:
“(Insert your name here) is not for everyone, and that’s okay.”